Ziyou said, “Being overbearing in service to a lord will lead to disgrace, while in relating to friends and companions it will lead to estrangement.”Confucius, & Slingerland, E. (2003). Analects: With selections from traditional commentaries. Hackett Publishing.
Ziyou said Be too censorious in serving the ruler, and you will end up in disgrace. Be that way with your friends, and you will lose them.Confucius, & Watson, B. (2007). The Analects of Confucius. Columbia University Press.