When Yan Hui passed away, the disciples wished to give him a lavish funeral.
The Master said, “That would not be proper.”
The disciples nonetheless went ahead and buried Yan Hui lavishly.
The Master remarked, “Hui looked upon me as a father, and yet in this case I was unable to treat him as a son. This was not my choice, but rather yours, you disciples.”Confucius, & Slingerland, E. (2003). Analects: With selections from traditional commentaries. Hackett Publishing.
When Yan Yuan died, the disciples wanted to give him a lavish burial. The Master said, That won’t do! But the disciples gave him a lavish burial anyway.
The Master said, Hui looked on me as a father, but I could not bury him as I would a son. I’m not to blame—it was you young men!Confucius, & Watson, B. (2007). The Analects of Confucius. Columbia University Press.